“The divorce rate in this country is outrageous. The reason is because people find it much easier to just cut their losses and run than to work them out. A marriage takes work. It’s not something to just try. When you get married, your vow says that you promise to be there for better or for worse ‘till death do you part’. It doesn’t say you’ll stay until it’s no longer convenient. If that were the case, people wouldn’t get married. Married is supposed to be permanent. If you would like to work on your marriage, you should try marriage and family counseling. Marriage and family counseling allows you to work out your problems in a calm setting with the counselor there as your mediator. The reason this works is because you get professional advice and also you’re not allowing your emotions to get the better of you…most of the time.
When a marriage goes sour, most days are usually spent with both parties screaming at each other. Everything gets under the other person’s skin. Little things like water left on the counter, a towel left on the floor, or even dishes left in the sink can turn into a screaming match. In some cases, it even leads to thrown objects. That’s why most marriages can’t be worked out at home. It doesn’t do any good to just scream at each other. You need to work out your problems logically and with as little emotion as possible. That’s not to say you shouldn’t have any emotion. It only means you should allow your emotions to get the better of you so that you two can be as rational as possible. Only then can the two of you work through your problems so that you can find that common bond once more.
The family and marriage counselor isn’t there to say that one party is right and one is wrong. If you say your spouse is selfish, the counselor isn’t going to side with you or agree with you. The counselor may ask why you think your partner is selfish and may ask the two of you to talk about that point calmly. This is how a marriage and family counseling session works and it’s how many marriages get back on track.
If you think your marriage is doomed, make an appointment with a family and marriage counselor today and work on your marriage instead of just giving up like so many do. You can even do online marriage counseling if your schedules conflict; anything to actually make it work.”